Tuesday, November 17, 2009

What could be better than one baby???

Well TWO, of course! And where does this other baby come from?


hmmmm, well, yes, we have more news. I am PREGNANT!

True story.

It's a very long, long story. But it's an amazing story. I will do my best to sum up. Back in June we got a call out of the blue from our fertility doctor. They were doing an In-Vitro trial, using new methods, and they thought we were good candidates for it, so they were offering us this amazing opportunity to participate in the trial. Of course I said yes we want to participate. duh! But I/we were So shocked!!

Wow. Didn't expect THAT phone call in a million, perhaps billion, years. Kirk and I discussed it and decided that we wouldn't tell anyone about it but our parents. We have been through two previous rounds of InVitro that didn't work and It was just too hard when it didn't work and we had to tell all our friends and family. It sucked. We were working so hard on our adoption stuff and trying to find our baby and we decided that we would put our faith in the Lord for this InVitro, and in the meantime keep working on adoption and the things we were doing. After all, the Lord gave us this opportunity, we just decided to put it all together in His hands.

So we started all the meds and stuff we needed to do in July. There was a timing issue and the doctor called on my birthday to tell us the timing was off and we need to scrap this cycle and go again in August. Ok. why not.

So we started it all over again in August. I should insert here that when the doctor called us in June we weren't currently corresponding with any birth parents. But by the time we started things in August, we had already talked to like 11 birth parents, four of which were pretty seriously considering us. Kirk and I were SO stressed about how everything was coming to a head all at the same time. We kept thinking "what if this works? Holy crap that will be crazy? What will we do?, etc. etc." But we also thought.. "ahhh.. it's not going to work" Not trying to be downers, just really had low expectations about it. I think we were trying to protect ourselves.

So we had our embryo transfer on August 24. Then during the next two weeks we met our first two birth parents face to face! They both made their decisions pretty quickly and were off the table so to speak. Then on September 5 we had our pregnancy test. They took my blood in the morning then called in the afternoon... and told us I was pregnant. I couldn't even talk. I was so shocked I didn't believe it. I went downstairs and told Kirk and he was like "WHAT????" It was so crazy. It didn't really hit us for about 8 weeks to be honest :) (side note, september 5 was the day BYU beat Oklahoma in Football.. Kirk says "this is one of the best days of my life" hilarious)

So in the next two weeks, we met two more birth moms, Mariel included. Then on Monday, September 14, I had an ultrasound to see the embryo and heartbeat. We thought it would feel more real when we saw the heartbeat.. but it didn't really. We're a little slow.

The VERY NEXT DAY, Mariel, the birth mother of the baby boy we are adopting in January, announced to us that she wanted to place with us! We were so excited.. but at the same time felt ultra guilty because we hadn't told her we were pregnant yet. We hadn't told our case worker either. We really debated when we were going to say something. It was still so early in the pregnancy, and we didn't want to have a miscarriage and then lose our chance at adoption. But also.. we just really felt strongly that we were supposed to adopt Mariel's baby no matter what. So anyway... we called our caseworker and said.. "uh.. can we come talk to you immediately? we have something we need to talk to you about" Our poor case worker's head was already spinning from all the face to face meetings and action we had going on. We sit down on her couch and tell her we're pregnant. She totally BURSTS out laughing. :) What do we expect. So a furry of phone calls were made, to her supervisor and Mariel's case worker and the news is broken. Basically when you become prego you are OFF the adoption lists, but because of the timing and just the whole situation, and because Mariel had already announced to us, they said it was OK for us to adopt Mariel's baby if it was what she wanted!

So that night I emailed Mariel and told her basically the whole story, in even more detail than I am writing here if you can imagine, and told her that if she still wanted to place her baby with us we would be so thrilled and honored. We still had our dinner date for the following night, which I posted about two posts down, and I knew we would of course talk more then. Mariel had originally planned this dinner to be a huge and wonderful surprise, but then we dropped this HUGE bomb on her and just didn't know how she was feeling. She didn't respond to my email that night, which I was totally hoping she would. She admitted later that she didn't respond because she still wanted there to be some element of surprise.. stinker. We were so stressed about how she was taking it all. We hadn't meant to be deceitful, we just really didn't know how things would turn out with the pregnancy so we were being careful. In fact, we were planning to tell her that week about it since we had seen the heartbeat and everything.. but she beat us to it! whooooopsie! :)

So we went to dinner.. and the rest is posted below :)

I am 15 weeks pregnant right now. We barely told our family at almost 13 weeks. They couldn't believe that we had kept it a secret, cuz, those of you who know me, and you don't have to know me well, know that I'm quite the open book extrovert. We wanted to wait to tell people until we were technically "out of the woods" at 12 weeks. Kirk was very stressed about it. He even gave me the sturn "IF YOU LOVE ME, you will not say ANYTHING to ANYONE". Sheesh, mister dramatic. Kirk was very proud of me keeping my promise, although it was torture. There are lots of other parts of this story that I've left out.. just more details. I didn't mean to even write this much, but believe it or not this is the short-medium version :) You'll have to call me if you want more.

So there you have it! I'm PREGO!!! I am due May 11. I never ever thought I would have this opportunity. We are so thrilled, and so blessed and have felt our Father in Heaven's loving guidance through this entire process. It has been a roller coaster that's for sure, but He has been beside us the whole way, strengthening us and giving us courage. We are so grateful to Him for the many blessings he has given to us and is giving to us, and that we are finally going to start our family. We just can't believe we will have TWO children in the next 6 months. We know we will get our butts kicked. But we are so excited.

Thank you all for your love and support and friendship. You mean so much to us.

Now maybe I can blog about our life now that I don't have to keep it all a secret anymore! Woo hoo! I probably still won't that often, but it's nice to know it's an option :)

38 comments:

Birgitta said...

OH! I JUST LOVE IT! What a story! You need to write it all down with every detail and then publish it in your own picture book!

I can't wait to hold those two babies! :) I get all giddy when I think of you!

Lori said...

I'm speechless... yet SO excited for you both!!! You'll be great parents and both babies are VERY lucky.

Scully said...

I'm so happy for you guys! I can't wait to meet them both.

The Gang said...

Haha! Funny (and exciting) stuff! I heard you were pregnant and I said 'isn't that how it always goes.' Our daughter and foster daughter were 6 months apart and everyone thought they were twins so get used to that. I think it's totally funny how we haven't talked in like 12 years and I still hear stuff about you. Congrats, I am happy for you four!!

Miken Harding said...

It almost always happens, you are the 3rd person I know who has gotten pregnant. You know HF is totally smiling down on you! Congratulations! Maybe you'll have yours on Mothers Day, that's when Brooks came! They are great hard work!!! YEAH!

Scott & Tami said...

It was SOOOOOOO good to talk the other night. What a whirlwind experience!!! Heavenly Father is in charge baby!!! That's 2 babies...hahaha. Yeah!!!

Tamara said...

Heather, This is Tamara Hogsett. Richard and I are so thrilled about your expected babies. It has been so HARD for your mom not to say anything. The day she told us she almost exploded with JOY and HAPPINESS. You have been in our prayers and we definitely do believe in PRAYERS and MIRACLES. Even though I have not met you yet, I feel close because of Richard and Christen, your precious mom and your amazing sisters. So often the rainbows in our lives come after the clouds and the storms. Your mom will keep the road hot beween here and Utah. We wish you and Kirk the very best and know you will be the best parents ever! Lots of love, Richard and Tamara

Adri said...

So happy for you guys. :)

Karen Brothersen said...

I agree with Birgitta! I just love it! I get soooo smiley and happy every time I think of you 4! Those babies will be the luckiest kids ever to have you and Kirk as parents! Love you!

SANDERSON / MCCONKIE FAMILY said...

Truely a "Miracle"!!!! Nicole said one of her friends at school said they were a "Mistake". He heard his parents call him that. She said I was unexpected too but I am not a "Mistake", my Mom and Dad said I am a "Miracle"! You two will make incredible parents! Oh, to be in heaven and hear the whispers of those little angels.

Mariel Hansen said...

THE ELEMENT OF SURPRISE!! Haha, that day was just crazy, man! I love it though, and i love reading peoples reactions :)

Kimberly said...

Yea! The cat is out of the bag. I've only been trying to keep it a secret for a couple weeks and it's killing me. It must have been so hard for you guys. It's hard to feel real when you can't share, because with the sharing comes the overflow of joy. It's fun to talk about it! I'm sure your phone is ringing off the hook (Hmmm, I think that expression is outdated!). I'm so excited for you. I'm wanting to come down with mom, but am wondering about Baylee. Congratulations. This is SOOOOO exciting!

panini said...

This is such awesome news!! I'm so thrilled for you!!! What a wonderful little family you're going to have. :)

Melanie said...

I am sitting here in utter disbelief...and I'm crying...because I am SO excited. I don't even have the words. And I'm not even family. Oh, and Danielle is fired for not sneaking me the news.

Oh man, all the prayers have been worth it - I can't wait to hear all the details. Heather, you and Kirk, deserve this so much. Aaaaah! I'll be thinking about it all day.

John and Jada McFarlane said...

Crazy! I am so excited for you guys! You are going to do awesome! Congratulations. Johnny is going to flip when I tell him your amazing story!

Kriss said...

Congratulations! I am so excited for you!

esperanza said...

What a faith-sustaining story about miracles! :D

Audrey said...

That is just absolutely fabulous. What an amazing story. I can't believe how much work this next year is going to be for you guys. At least you're not pregnant with twins right?

WalkConkies said...

Hooray! We are SO excited for you FOUR!!!!!!!! Can't wait to see those precious babies and I'm so glad we are so close to help when you have that midnight craving! You can count on us to bring you watermelon or ice cream or pickles or whatever - there's a store at the end of the street :)! Both babies are so lucky to have you guys to love them!!!

Jimmy and Verusca said...

OH MY GOSH!! That is sooo great! Congratulations Perrins! It's funny how Heavenly Father does things. I am very excited for you guys! Congrats again!
Bianco

Kathy said...

Well, Grandma and Grandpa Perrins are trilled the baby you are carrying will be a tie breaker. January baby will make it 7 boys, we already have 7 girls, so May baby breaks the tie! We are so excited!

Julie said...

Wow! I'm double excited for you guys! What a wonderful blessing to happen to a family!

Jenni said...

WOW!!! What a great story and amazing that you will have two babies! You will make a great mom and Kirk will be a great dad!

just a mom with a camera said...

congratulations, that's so exciting, what lucky babies.

RR said...

I am so thrilled. I totally started bawling about line 3 and then I kept skipping down to make a comment and then going back to read the post. Words cannot express what a miracle this is!! I just can't believe it. I can't believe it!! I have been thinking about you guys so many times in the last year. This is such a sweet tender mercy the Lord has given you. Love you..miss you! We're coming December 14-20. Will you be there? When will you find out gender? Why do I ask I work in radiology..week 20ish. I am so excited. I knew something was up. All this time..I was like why hasn't heather said more things lately? I know something big was in the works!

chiara family said...

Isn't that the way it happens I figure when you were giving me nausea info that might be the case..CONGRATS to you. We are about 3 weeks apart. I am finally out of the sick stage and nothing worked but hopefully it is over.

I heard about Pres Hansen and I will miss him, he was awesome!!!

SO we are heading back to the mission area which is kind of crazy but I am excited.

Call me when you can

B.Gunnell said...

Incredible! Wonderful! How do you even begin to express how awesome that is for you both. I am thrilled for you both. Two very lucky little spirits!

Samantha and Tyrel Ross said...

Yeah I am so excited. My mom called me the day she found out and I almost cried and of course got teary eyed reading your post. I am so excited for you and think about you often and hoped and prayed you could get well at least one baby!! Take care of yourself and can't wait to see pictures of these two babies!! Love you lots!!

Kristi said...

Two miracles! I'm so glad they are coming!

RR said...

You have so many friends and family. I've never gotten 30 comments in my life!

Now with that said..where are ultrasound pictures of both babies?? And what about you? Is your belly showing??!

Jess said...

I am SO thrilled for you guys!! What a miracle!!! I can't wait to hear what you are having :)

Kelly and Nathan said...

Oh my goodness! I got chills when i read this! This is Sister Kelly Landress (temple square mission) by the way - not sure if you remember me:) I cut your hair one time:) LOL:) Now my last name is Black. I have been in contact with Miken and she asked if I had heard your news and so I went on your blog and checked it out. I am sooooo happy for you. My husband and I are in a similar boat that you were in (key word...were:). We have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years now. We haven't started the adoption route yet and couldn't afford the IVF but were seeing a fertility specialist. I came to a breaking point and have taken a break the last couple months and we have focused on my husband getting accepted to chiropractic school. He will start in January so once that gets squared away, I think I will be ready again to think about the baby subject. I needed this break to keep my sanity.:) Again I am soooo happy for you! Feel free to check out my blog. www.nkblack.blogspot.com, then you might remember me:)

Danielle said...

Just adding my love and excitement to all of the other words of love and excitement!!

Can't wait to have more babies to play with. Thanks for raising the odds of me getting a chance to always hold one! ;)

Love you, Hobber!!

lanita said...

I loved reading your story. Thanks for sharing. And CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

Amanda said...

Holy Cow - SO excited for you guys! How fun. It is so ingteresting to get to look back and see the Lord's plans and timing - what a smart man.

Kale said...

I'm a little late but WAHOOOOO I'm so thrilled for you guys congratulations!!!!

Denise and Brandon said...

Hey there! It's "Sister Wardell" here...now Gardner. I found your blog through Lyndsey's. Congratulations! What a story. I'm so happy for you! Good luck with everything!

Duchess said...

Congratulations! What a busy and wonderful place you entering.